divorced parent, you know that the holidays can be particularly tough on your children.
At the same time, we at Center for Mediated Divorce understand that your
children come first. It is also important to look after your needs as
well, as your children will be looking to your for strength and guidance.
There are many ways you can continue enjoying the holiday season while
reducing conflict. Often enough, children will feel a wide range of emotions,
sometimes anger due to their situation. They may ask “why”
and feel upset because their routines have been disrupted. You can try
to maintain the same routines. Alternatively, you can create new traditions
and new ways to celebrate the holidays.
Easing Holiday Stress
If you and your ex have a good relationship, then it might be worthwhile
to celebrate the holidays together with the children. On the other hand,
if you anticipate that there will be tension, then it is best not to let
the children see that there exists conflict with you two.
Here are some additional tips:
- Let your children give you input about what they would like during the
holidays. They have a say in how they would like to celebrate, and it
gives them far more control.
- Plan everything well ahead in advance. If you are alternating holidays
with your ex or are planning to split the day from one home to the other,
communicate that with your child. It can help reduce any anxiety about the days.
- Get your extended family members involved, especially the ones who are
closest to your children. Bringing all of your loved ones together can
reduce the tension tenfold.
Your family can provide you with the support that you need at this time.
It is so important to take care of yourself during this time, including
your health and well-being. Our Irvine divorce lawyer is always willing
to listen as well and offer legal guidance and counsel to assist you.
If you would like an appointment with Center for Mediated Divorce and to
meet our attorney, do not hesitate to contact us!
Judith A. Williams is a first-rate divorce attorney who helps clients find compromising and reasonable solutions.
Request your appointment by calling (714) 706-3992.